The first series in adopting an alpha mindset.
Series I — Fear Of Judgement:
I cannot accurately define the term ‘alpha’ — for any attempt to do so will greatly limit its meaning.
I will, however, say that any man is justified in pursuing an ‘alpha’ state of mind — more so in this era of timidity and purposelessness found in the average personality.
One attribute of a ‘beta’ (for lack of a better term, ‘not alpha’) is people pleasing — and no matter how eloquently you may excuse this as a form of ‘kindness’ or ‘niceness’, this character trait will never inspire into success.
If anything, it is an exponential spiral towards personal failure,
— and you may not even realise this.
Why?
Because you have been conditioned to place value on opinions and judgements,
— even if they are dumbfounded,
— even if they bite down on your self-worth,
— even if they kill you,
I laugh at the absurdity (and subtle truth) of this forthcoming statement:
but the average person would rather swallow cyanide than be judged,
because judgement is its own slow, agonizing death.
This is a hard pill to swallow,
and however successful you may be, your success could easily be multiplied by a factor of ten thousand,
— if only you stopped caring what other people think about you,
How many times has a fear of judgement stopped you from pursuing your deepest, most intrinsic goals?
What will they think of me,
if I said I applied to Harvard?
What will they think of me,
if I asked for a raise?
What will they think of me,
if I wore this today?
What will they think of me,
if I asked her out?
Does this voice sound familiar?
Of course it does,
You listen to its fear-inducing hypotheticals daily.
Practice silencing it,
Practice clutching its mouth,
Because this ego-preserving voice has killed more dreams than death is blamed for,
It loves mediocrity,
— because no one questions average,
It loves comfort,
— because no one questions the norm,
It loves beta,
— because no one is threatened by beta.
You want to be alpha? You must free yourself from this fear first, anything else I say will be pointless.
I am no advocate for narcissism,
But consciously place yourself first — always, in all that you value and believe in.
If you have to cancel a date because you need to submit a chemistry paper
— then do so.
Be the first in line when it comes to accomplishing your goals, your dreams
— your purpose. ( See A Written Letter To All Men: )
Be ruthless in virtues,
You want to be alpha?
Well, stop giving a f*#!
